This morning these words popped up in a sentence in my head:
So limiting. I’ve heard it my entire life.
In sentences from friends, “I can’t make it tonight,”
from family members, “I can’t afford that right now,”
to myself, “I can’t do anything in this world without money.”
It’s rooted in fear. Fear of failure, of embarrassment, of being vulnerable.
The opposite of fear is freedom. Freedom from illusion and it’s constraints…from 'I can’t' to 'I CAN.'
This constriction that often holds us back feels like it’s a small tap on the brakes, like it’s holding us back ever so slightly.
If we just GO FOR IT, fear dissipates and we wind up doing amazing things.
A perfect example is when I was in high school …
(a bit dated as an example but bear with me.)
I was not popular and pretty insecure. There was a position in ASB open for senior year that only someone ‘popular’ could get. (I know! It’s so silly but it was REAL to me at the time.) I decided to apply for it because I had some amazing ideas to make it really awesome and I truly wanted to be of service.
I rehearsed and rehearsed. I wrote out my ideas and committed them to memory. I was ready. As I stood outside the closed room of another interview going on, I started to get nervous. This was an interview with my peers, the popular ones. Would they see me? I was worried and started to doubt. Then, the door opened and out walked the most popular girl in our class. She was going for the same position as me!!
Taken aback, I quickly queried, “How’d it go?” Her ever-so-slight smirk coupled with a breezy, “IT went GREAT!” triggered something in me.
Immediately I thought and said to myself, “I’ll show you!” I CAN do this.
And, I got the position.
It’s like the moment when the bull is released from the gate…
All of this energy inside is finally released from the constriction of fear to BE, to DO, to….CAN.
The “you” or “them” in the statement, “I’ll show you!” is really about the “me.” Meaning, you are showing yourself you can do it. If you externalize it (which I did in high school), it’s not a hurtful comment to the other person. You are making yourself better by DOing it, by showing “them.”
Collectively, this “I can’t” fear-based consciousness needs to change.
Everybody worries and limits themselves in some capacity. Most often about money.
Yet, when we release these concerns and allow our vibrant energy full of amazing possibility come forward, all fear is dispelled.
“I CAN do this! I’ll show them.”